A Free Child is a child being able to access their Higher Self, God Self, Inner Self, All-Knowingness, their Spirit, the Part that never dies. Like Buddhist say your Higher Self is Buddha. Like Jesus said Father (Higher Self) and I are one. Like in India it is granted to listen to your God Self. Or like Abraham tells us to ‘Get into the Vortex’.
To access your Higher Self you must shut off your Subconscious Mind (also called ‘the computer’ where you store memories) and unite with your God Self. A Free Child can grow effortless into a Free Adult if the channel to The Higher Self has been used and practiced. In union with Higher Self you act on what is appropriate for the moment and even if you come in a similar situation the next time you act with the actual information of the here and now. There is no memory. Spirit does not remember, Spirit knows.
By following orders that are sustained through rewarding and punishing, a child is not allowed to get in touch with their own Knowingness of what to do and what not to do, how to respond in the here and now to the utmost unique situation.
In recurring punishing, patterns are created with fear (pain); in rewarding, patterns are created of dependence and lowered self-belief. The child is taught not to trust their inner Knowingness and responses, but to wait for (and demand) the commandos of the adult/authority. The patterns that are created are stored in our Subconscious Mind and rule the behavior. The adults in their way react from their pain- and dependence patterns and this cycle is repeated through generations.
These New Children are the Free Children born with full access to their Higher Self, their Spirit.
- How can we help them to keep the access open?
- If we cannot use punishments and rewards, what can we do in our parenting?
- Can we recognize for ourselves that we can have access to our All-Knowingness?
Three major questions that may be quick answered, but I know, not so quickly done. We need to allow the children to be themselves.
We have to become an aware and empathic parent with peaceful parenting skills.
With opening our awareness we may be open to understand the moments of access, the hints with certain thoughts that we get. They may feel as intuition, they may feel as that we are being guided to something.
As a first start in your new venue of Positive Parenting a Free Child, you may ask your own Higher Self to guide you.
You can think or say out loud for example:
and I can ask My Higher Self to guide me.
Look at your child as a King’s child.
Why would you treat your own child with less care than a King’s Child? And if you see your child as a King’s child, a Gods- child, then your child is not your child….
It brings me to the writings of Kahlil Gibran about children. His wonderful poem gives many answers to my questions of what our parenting should look like:
by Kahlil Gibran
Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children
as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might
that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable.
Tus hijos no son tus hijos de Khalil Gibran
Tus hijos no son tus hijos
son hijos e hijas de la vida
deseosa de si misma.
No vienen de ti, sino a través de ti
y aunque estén contigo
no te pertenecen. Puedes darles tu amor,
pero no tus pensamientos, pues,
ellos tienen sus propios pensamientos.
Puedes abrigar sus cuerpos,
pero no sus almas, porque ellas,
viven en la casa del mañana,
que no puedes visitar
ni siquiera en sueños. Puedes esforzarte en ser como ellos,
pero no procures hacerlos semejantes a ti
porque la vida no retrocede,
ni se detiene en el ayer. Tú eres el arco del cual, tus hijos
como flechas vivas son lanzados.
Deja que la inclinación
en tu mano de arquero
sea para la felicidad.