EmPathIQ Communication Family Training

Do We Need Parenting Classes?

“All of a sudden i was a parent”, is what i often hear parents say. Even though there are many months of preparation,when a first child is born people seem to be caught by surprise. Everything is new.Their life will never be the same as before the child was born.

If it is good to take Parenting Classes, what should be in it?

1. Understanding the relationship with your child

Our society does not prepare us for being a parent. We are not at all set up to live with children. Our living space is mostly the adult one, our schedules are adult schedules, and mainly, -unless you are a teacher or child care worker- once we are adults, we are not used to interact with children on a daily basis. Mostly, children are put in schools and day cares or in the designated areas such as the private home, a play group or a playground.

In our daily lives we do not meet a baby often, let alone hold a new born. Our physical, mental, emotional and spiritual being hardly gets any training in interacting with any age of children.


So what can we expect of ourselves when we have a baby who becomes a toddler, a young child, and a teenager?
We do have memories of how our parents were with us, or how our older siblings or family members treated us, but that may not match how we choose to be with our children. When the parent has a job, the time is very limited to get to know the new family member, or spend quality time with the toddler.
What can we do to fully comprehend the life of the new Being who came to live with us? How can we expect ourselves to respond from giving, understanding and love when we need time to come to ourselves after work in addition to all the tasks waiting at home to do?

What would you do with anybody who would come living with you?
  • You would make space
  • You would make a schedule
  • You would discuss what your likes are
  • You would find a way to express to one another the way how you want you to live together.

You would do all this when you both speak the same language.
But what if the person spoke a foreign language and did not understand English? In what other ways would you communicate with them?

  • You would use facial expression
  • Gestures
  • Sounds
  • You would try to ‘feel’ what the other expresses
  • You would try to ‘read’ the vibrations that come to us
  • You would open yourself up to be ‘Empathic Aware’.
  • In between you would repeat words in order for the other to understand what you are talking about.

It would be an equal game. You could be very aware of when the other ‘gets it’ or when you get what the other means. What a joy!

Now imagine you have a baby, a toddler….Ah… something else to ponder.
You have to be even more Empathic Aware of communicating equally as you can easily overpower the person so new to this world.
Finding Parenting Classes, that promote equal two-way communication, Parenting Classes where you can practice ‘getting’ each other and feeling the joy you can create together, will help you start this journey.

2. Decide on how you want to be as a parent
How my journey started

I had a crucial moment in my relationship with my 2 year old. I was not able to communicate what i wanted and unable to understand what he was after.
A huge anger grew in me into rage in seconds, and afterward i was pretty upset about that. How did that happen? Where did that come from?
I was over at a friend’s house and was in shock of how i had behaved with yelling, and even having slapped my toddler on the but. I had never done such things before! He was only two. If it was this difficult to communicate at this age, how would i ever manage when he grew into his teens?
After he was asleep i told my friend i could not hang out with her now. In a trance i found myself standing in front of her book case.
Then my hand reached out and grabbed a book. It was ‘Parent Effectiveness Training’, of 3 times Nobel Peace Prize nominee Dr. Thomas Gordon.

No spanking, no time-outs

I read the book overnight and at day break i was filled with joy. I could learn to communicate with my child in a peaceful way my wants as well as understanding what my child wanted. I had found a way to understand the build up of anger in parenting and how to work with my emotions when i am upset. Never ever would i need to spank or punish! I had discovered a communication method without tricks, without punishments, without bribing rewards for changing behavior, without a moral lecture.
Why did’ nt every parent know about this!
You can get knowledge from a book, but to acquire skills and fully understand how to do, say and feel, you need actual training. Therefore i was so happy that Gordon offered classes.
I inscribed for the first available course of 10 weeks. By each class i became more enthusiastic. I experienced the dept and love that a relationship could get from the skills that i learned.
After a year of training i received my certification and became a Gordon Trainer. I taught thousands of parents P.E.T. skills in workshops, lectures, and in the complete course.

However, the PET became a shorter course and i was meanwhile adding more! I realized that we are in the 21st century and that our Empathy was lacking more and more. How could i enhance the exercises and information so that parents could create a more empathic atmosphere in their home and what’s more, parents among each other, the situations at school, at work, with friends and family….. Parenting was not something by itself. Understanding  how communication works is for everybody the same, whether this is for a baby, teenager or for a manager. Capturing their needs, reading their non-verbal language, as a parent you get the best training of all. But all the people around a parent should be able to assist the parent. ‘Parenting’ has to have a mindset change that can touch all the people that the parent comes in contact with.

So the answer to the question is:

You do not need especially a Parenting Class, but you need a class in understanding how communication works among woman/mankind, from a newborn to the elderly.

So i decided to create a full major training for all and i embedded the beautiful skills of Thomas Gordon among the methaphysical training i received from my late husband Emahmn, as well as skills i was taught in theater:

The EmPathIQ Communication Training

The EmPathIQ Communication Training offers all the beautiful skills that i talk about in every chapter of this website.  You can learn more, train and research these skills in:

  • The complete EmPathIQ Communication Training with four Modules:             BasicsComprehensive  – AdvancedPractice
  • Individual Coaching
I also realized that parents often need quickly relief in their relationship with their children. To get them started with immediate questions i created the

EmPathIQ Communication Family Training

The next online ECFT will be in the February of 2024.

Request MORE INFO, or enjoy a call of FINDING OUT WHAT IT IS ABOUT with me personally by sending an email to ceacilleaemahmn@protonmail.com 

About Ceacillea Emahmn (Cielja Kieft)
Ceacillea is originally from Amsterdam,
The Netherlands and married to her late
life  partner and metaphysical
teacher and mandalist Emahmn . She is the
mother of  a 35 and 30 year old son and OMA
(grandmother) to two grand-daughters and 
two grand-sons.
Her youngest son was home-schooled
(un-schooled) when they came to America.
In Amsterdam Ceacillea and Zach (Cielja and Guus)
initiated the Guus Kieft School,
which fused with a similar school
in 2021 and became the existing DSA-Life school.
Education has a special place
in Ceacillea’s heart. She was also a theatre
director and actor trainer as well as a voice
coach at the University of Amsterdam for
many years before she changed careers
to teaching Parents, Teachers and Leaders
Peaceful Communication skills.
She has worked with all age groups.
Please let me know any question/concern that comes up!
Looking very much forward to having you in the course,
together with your partner(s) (in raising your children).
Peace and Joy,
Ceacillea Emahmn
Ceacillea Emahmn
a woman acting at times as Mother, Grand-Mother, Trainer and Visionary
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